About

How long has it been since you felt like yourself?

It’s easy to get off course. It often happens even when you’ve done everything “right” and played by the rules. In spite of your best efforts, something feels off.

It’s confusing and frustrating.

This is what leads many people to therapy.

Therapy is about reconnecting – reconnecting with yourself and reconnecting with others.

At the core, we are all whole.

We all have that part of us that is wise, authentic, confident and powerful. Even if we feel disconnected from it – or wonder if we’ve ever truly known it at all – it’s there.

The problem is that it’s so easy for it to get buried – buried under fear, busyness, self-doubt, difficult relationships, or traumas.

And when it gets really bad, it feels overwhelming, heavy, and scary. It’s frightening to feel so far from yourself, or so distant from the people you love.

Therapy can help you find the way back.

People come to therapy for help reconnecting. They want to improve a relationship or get back in touch with themselves. They want to experience more confidence, inner peace, and joy.

They want to break free from obstacles that weigh them down – challenges like feeling “not enough,” depression, people-pleasing, avoidance, hopelessness.

Most folks come in with a lot of curiosity and ask things like:

– I’m not sure I’ve ever had a healthy relationship – what does one look like?
– I’m normally pretty successful, but I have no idea what to do with this. What’s the answer?
– I keep trying to feel better, and it’s not working. Can you help?

The exact challenge looks different for everyone, but there’s a voice saying, “THIS IS NOT ME.” The goal is to help you find the way back to yourself and the life you want to create.

My approach to therapy

Therapy has two key components: insight and tools. Insight is about understanding yourself and your patterns better. We examine what has contributed to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

Insight includes looking at your past – not to stay there, but to set you free. When we understand why we do things, it’s easier to change those habits.

Next come the tools. Think of this as skill building. This primarily means changing your relationship to your thoughts and emotions – and taking new action in the world.

Examples include communicating better with your partner, figuring out what to do with worry, or learning to relax and unwind in a healthy way.

Therapy is a safe place.

This work is done with compassion. Therapy is a judgment-free zone. All of us go through hard times and do things we are not proud of.

In therapy you can be messy, contradictory, emotional, and not have the answers. The process of growth is two steps forward, one step back – and that’s okay.